December 10th, 2009
I am not a negative person by nature and find that negativity seems to knock the wind out of my sails.
There are several approaches to dealing with negativity, and while none of them are easy, they are simple to do without compromising your credibility at work.
I’ll share my favourite approach today. Try to do this for the next 30 days. It won’t be easy.
Turn every negative statement they say into a positive one.
Them: “It’s too cold outside”
You: “I love my sweater and I can’t wear it in the summer. The cold allows me to wear it and I like that”
Them: “This company takes advantage of us all the time”
You: “I’m glad I have a job”
Them: “Bob the Boss is such a jerk don’t you think?”
You: “I’ve heard horror stories, so put into perspective, I can deal with Bob”
You don’t actually have to believe what you are saying; you just have to say the positive version of what your difficult person is saying. You may think that Bob the Boss is a jerk too, but if you agree with their negativity, you are actually encouraging them to be negative more often.
You must be 100% consistent with this approach though. Always take their negativity and make it positive. This will exhaust you. It won’t be easy, but it will be worth it in the end.
This won’t make them a positive person. It just makes them take their negativity elsewhere.
That’s OK with me
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